Grief

Today is the 9th anniversary of my BFFs passing.  As I vowed at my eulogy to her, I miss her everyday and always will.

Sheryl Sandberg just finished the period of sheloshim, the 30 days of mourning, for her husband David Goldberg.  Her essay on grief and grieving is beautiful and gives truly practical advice.

To honor my BFF I will try and remember these most meaningful lessons:

Lesson No. 1: Choose to find meaning in your life.

Lesson No. 2: It’s not going to be OK — and that, in itself, is OK.

Lesson No. 3: Ask for help.

Lesson No. 4: You can become more resilient.

Lesson No. 5: Don’t take anything for granted. Practice gratitude.

Lesson No. 6: “Kick the shit out of option B.”

I am grateful for my beautiful, loving, generous friend who was by my side with unconditional love for 40 years. I miss you everyday and always will.